Trust is built slowly. The more consistent you are the more trustworthy you will be. Everyone wants to be loved and cared for; everyone wants to be trusted. When we speak we want people to listen to us and believe us. When we belong it means we are both loved and trusted. The Bible teaches us to love people unconditionally because God loved us unconditionally. However, the Bible does not teach that we should trust people unconditionally. The Scripture is clear that Jesus – although he loved everyone – did not trust everyone. See John 2:23-25. Personally, I will only trust someone as much as their integrity allows me to trust them.
5 ways to build trust.
- Admit when you are wrong. The more you do this publicly the more people identify with you.
- Be on time, apologize when you are late and call people back.
- Do what you say. Integrity is essential. He who sows integrity reaps trust. Under promise and over deliver.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say: Be honest and don’t flatter people.
- Talk to people, not about people. If you speak about people, others will hear you, and will not trust you.