Tag: emotional intelligence
How are your Emotions?
How are your emotions? How you manage your emotions will determine the quality of your life. How you mange your emotions will determine how much people trust you. There is a direct connection between how you manage your feelings and how you manage your friendships. Many people are like a hard drive that is 98 % full and slowing down. When the hard drive is very close to full the computer is not only slower but it is also at risk of crashing. Crashing could mean that you loose what you have because you didn’t protect it well. Many people are one situation away from a meltdown. Your mind, will and emotions are limited in both strength and space. Keeping a clear conscience is not just about admitting when you are wrong or confessing sin, its also about managing your emotions. If you don’t manage your emotions you may have a meltdown. The same way if you don’t make space on the hard drive and just keep saving stuff your computer may eventually crash. The end result of not managing emotions could even be murder or suicide, so this is a very serious thing. Your emotional health is determined by what you internalize and what you externalize. Here is a model I have used especially during hard times.
What to Internalize and what to Externalize.
Internalize – think about and focus on.
- What God says in his word (the Bible) and by his Holy Spirit.
- What God does. (The Testimonies of the Lord)
- Success. (What I have learned from what I did right)
- The lessons I have learned and why? (What I learned from my failures)
- Good advice I have received from wise counselors.
Externalize – write them down on paper until you are done processing what was presented to you.
- Problems
- Needs
- Temptation
- Criticism
- Failures
We should write down what we internalize as well. The reason I am saying to write down what you are externalizing is so that your problems don’t occupy precious and priceless space in your soul. I hope this helps you process what emotions you are feeling. Remember, emotions make a great servant but a terrible master.
10 Commandments of Social Media
Social Media is not just social. People hire and fire people according to their digital footprint. Remember if you post something online, send an e-mail or a text message a screen shot makes that electronic communication forever. This means we should not post anything online that we don’t want the whole world to see because there is a possibility of the whole world seeing it especially if someone goes awol. I wrote the 10 commandments of social media with your future in mind. I don’t want something you posted on social media to sabotage your success.
10 Commandments of Social Media
- Thou shalt not post on the Facebook wall of someone you have no relationship with.
- Thou shalt not tag people to a picture they are not in.
- Thou shalt not put your dirty laundry on Facebook. This is called social nudity and you could be in danger of being prosecuted for indecent exposure. This often makes people look crazy, unstable, unsafe and untrustworthy.
- Thou shalt not use passive aggressive behavior because you are afraid of confrontation.
- Thou shalt not make public posts that should be private conversations.
- Thou shalt not take provocative pictures of yourself if you expect to be treated with respect. (Bible verses and bikinis have nothing to do with each another.) If you need attention that bad you may need to see a Psychologist.
- Thou shalt not simply follow people because you want them to follow you back.
- Thou shalt not write in all capitals because people may think you are yelling at them.
- Thou shalt not post naked pictures of your children, that’s just weird. (There are too many sicko’s out there.)
- Thou shalt not post off topic and irrelevant comments on an original post because people will not take you seriously.
If you enjoyed this blog you will enjoy a short video that I did entitled – Social Nudity : the remix. Click here to watch.